tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post115887460739983732..comments2023-09-29T04:48:20.796-07:00Comments on A Musing Farf: Sarahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04903019864486016667noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1159992334658153042006-10-04T13:05:00.000-07:002006-10-04T13:05:00.000-07:00Liz: Had I edited this more before posting, I woul...Liz: Had I edited this more before posting, I would have changed the above sentance to read "Symbols change over time and I have no respect for people who can not understand that, in today’s society and for some people, a ring is nothing more than a gift." My problem is that your post implied that anyone who accepted a ring was accepting lesser status and that, simply put, is not true.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04903019864486016667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1159724882121649252006-10-01T10:48:00.000-07:002006-10-01T10:48:00.000-07:00I truly don't understand when people say feminism ...I truly don't understand when people say feminism is rejecting them or feminism is telling them what to do. I have an opinion. And yes, it's an opinion about what would be best in the long run for all of us, and yes, I stated it in that way.<BR/><BR/>But at what point you think me stating my opinion has anything remotely to do with judgement about you and your choices, I have no idea. People have opinions. At the same time, people can and do respect yours. It's a discourse. It's a figuring it out. I think that if you read the comment thread over at BlogHer, you will see that all opinions were welcomed and respected.<BR/><BR/>Just because we are different and disagree, that doesn't mean we shouldn't state our opinions and it doesn't mean that we are telling each other what to do. <BR/><BR/>Ah, but wait: "Symbols change over time and I have no respect for people who can not understand that, in today’s society, a ring is nothing more than a gift."<BR/><BR/>I respect your opinion about your engagement ring and engagement rings in general. It would appear, however, that you do not respect mine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1158991146483295432006-09-22T22:59:00.000-07:002006-09-22T22:59:00.000-07:00Yeah. What Sara said. I do wish people - men, sl...Yeah. What Sara said. I do wish people - men, slave-owners, capitalist oil-sucking war-mongers, feminists, the Vietnamese women who give me my pedicures and have lots to say about dry skin - would stop telling everybody else what to do. It's dispiriting to think the world of the tolerant - even the amused, God forbid - is shrinking as fast as the ozone layer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1158940109404102282006-09-22T08:48:00.000-07:002006-09-22T08:48:00.000-07:00As I posted on Suzanne's blog, I could not believe...As I posted on Suzanne's blog, I could not believe how many people screamed at me when I took J's name. After all, I rationed, I am a card carrying feminist! One of the downfalls of any progressive movement, however, is when people feel that their way of doing a certain thing (be it feminism, fighting racism, or curing cancer) is the ONLY way, and spend way too much time tearing down other people's choices and decisions. This, I believe, has been the downfall of the Democratic Party. Why do the Republicans have the power? Because they agreed to disagre on a certain number of issues, but present a united front on the rest. But I digress.<BR/><BR/>Women who are feminists and, presubably "pro choice" sometimes need a nudge (or a stomp on the instep with a stilletto) to remember that it's pro all choices, and not just MY choices.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1158938002859990972006-09-22T08:13:00.000-07:002006-09-22T08:13:00.000-07:00Whew! Glad we cleared that up and you are not mad...Whew! Glad we cleared that up and you are not mad at me. Also, I am impressed with your brother's snarkiness. He obviously learned from a master. (I mean you...)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I second your call for new Haven volunteers.<BR/><BR/>L'shana tova!Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279999850117456433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1158897215900830052006-09-21T20:53:00.000-07:002006-09-21T20:53:00.000-07:00I actually told the class I was stunned you were e...I actually told the class I was stunned you were engaged because I was becoming convinced you were a lesbian. Sheesh, please don't misrepresent my priceless humor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33489167.post-1158879642202330852006-09-21T16:00:00.000-07:002006-09-21T16:00:00.000-07:00Wait, wait - I did not write in a disparaging way ...Wait, wait - I did not write in a disparaging way about women who take their husband's last name. I said that I used to get all annoyed at women who did that, but then one day I grew up and realized that if I don't like it when people get all up in my face about keeping my name, then why did I think it was OK to get in other people's faces about their decisions? So I stopped doing that. It's not my business. My conclusion, however, was that if you somehow believed that having the same last name would prevent any problems from occurring in your marriage, I would still make fun of you.<BR/><BR/>Thus far, I have never found your reasoning to be foolish in any way, shape, or form, so I never disparaged you. Please finish reading the piece (or re-read when you are less angry) and you'll see that I actually said that I was an idiot for being so judgemental in my youth.Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16279999850117456433noreply@blogger.com